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After cancer, couple learns to focus on the simple things in life

Sunday, March 7, 2010
(Updated Monday, March 8 - 9:44 am)

GREENSBORO — Masoud and Annah have two goats.

They’re small goats, Nigerian dwarfs, with names we all can recognize — Ringo Starr and Lily.

Ask Masoud about them, and he’ll laugh. Then, he’ll tell you about his rooster named Windex after pulling out his cell phone and showing you a photo of Golden Girl, his egg-laying chicken.

“Oh, it’s the icing on the cake,” Masoud says, his voice rising, his clipped West Bank accent becoming more pronounced.

“People call me crazy. But it’s a good crazy. It’s just the simplicity of life, my friend. It’s beautiful. It’s nature. And it’s all a part of this beautiful circle.”

The circle. Masoud Awartani and his wife, Annah Laymoun, talk about that a lot lately.

On Thursday , Masoud and Annah will fly to Jordan, and for the first time, they’ll help volunteers from Greensboro’s First Baptist Church build a four-room cement block house with Habitat Jordan at the south end of the Dead Sea.

They’ll build it for a Jordanian laborer named Issa Dgamat and his family in a town called Ghor al Safi in the storied land of the Old Testament.

Then, the two will travel north to the University of Jordan, to find the bench where they first met in December 1981 , the place where love connected and later sent them across the Atlantic to start a life two decades ago in Greensboro.

Seeing that bench now — or really, the importance of seeing it — fits their new lifestyle. Just like raising tiny goats in their backyard.

It’s the idea of slowing down, taking stock, giving back and living healthy. They’ll talk about that forever. But you don’t need to hear that from Masoud and Annah. Just find the board beside the kitchen at Zaytoon, their restaurant in downtown Greensboro .

Then read.

Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass — it’s about learning to dance in the rain.

Children are messengers we send to a time we will never see.

Being young is beautiful but being old is comfortable.

Masoud and Annah call it “Food For Thought.” They posted these pithy sayings after their family went through what Masoud calls “the biggest wake-up call.”

Stomach cancer.

For a month, in the summer of 2007, Masoud lay in a hospital bed in Winston-Salem and thought about life and death.

He lost 70 pounds and became a toothpick of a man as his wife kept a vigil beside his bed, barely sleeping. She held his hand and held back tears. She knew she had to stay strong.

“If it’s your time to go, God brought you here, and he’ll take you,” Annah told him. “But if you stay, I’ll make sure you have the healthiest life.”

Today, at 47, Annah holds a certification from Duke in integrated alternative health coaching and has helped turn her backyard into Slow Food Central.

There are 11 raised beds for vegetables and herbs, 10 chickens and eight mature fruit trees that bear apricots and peaches, plums and figs.

On the family refrigerator, written on lined notebook paper, is Annah’s prediction: The doctor of the future will give no medicine, but will interest his patients in the care of the human frame in diet and in the cause and prevention of disease.

“Read this statement! Read this statement!” Annah often tells her son Layth.

“Yes, Mom,” Layth responds, “I see it! I see it!”

Layth , a sophomore at Guilford College, wants to become a doctor; his sister Nora , a senior at Western Guilford High School, wants to become a nutritionist; Adam , an eighth-grader at Guilford Middle School, wants to be a scientist.

Their Muslim-American family has become the public face of Islam in Greensboro. And there’s no bigger spokesman than Masoud.

Surveys show Muslim Americans face distrust, discrimination, misinformation, even hate in their new country. Masoud hears that firsthand it when he stands in front of a local audience and fields questions like, “Why does the Middle East hate America?”

When that happens, he takes a deep breath and tries to explain Islam’s deep roots of peace and tolerance. Meanwhile, when he gets a chance, he talks to Muslim Americans about getting involved and reaching out.

It wasn’t always like that.

There was a time when Masoud lived fast and worked fast. He started at 5 in the morning and didn’t quit until 10 at night, as he steered a four-van business that delivered pastries to gas stations, restaurants and hospitals from Mebane to Boone.

And there was a time he was urged to go back home, back to the West Bank, where he once sold candy and cigarettes in a 10-by-20-foot store his dad called Masoud & Brothers Shop.

The request came after the surgery from his older sister, Hadia. She thought Masoud and his family needed to be closer to their roots, to recover, heal and start anew.

But she changed her mind. For three months, she stayed in Greensboro saw her brother hold court at temples, mosques and churches as well as at Zay­toon behind the cash register and at the Farmer’s Market, at Tables 143 and 144 .

“You are more needed in this city than you are back home,” she told him. “Stay where you are.”

Masoud knew he would. He came to Greensboro to study agricultural economics at N.C. A&T. Now 47, he sees this place as his place.

It’s his place for chickens, backyard fig trees and two Nigerian dwarf goats named Ringo Starr and Lily.

And now, it’s his place to leave for nearly a month.

He and Annah will help build a home in Jordan and go back to a bench, back to the place where a Palestinian teenager, bowled over by a girl’s beauty, asked his friends, “Wait a minute. Who is that?”

The circle. It’s about to be complete.

 

Contact Jeri Rowe at 373-7374 or jeri.rowe@news-record.com

 

Accompanying Photos

Jerry Wolford (News & Record)

Photo Caption: Annah and Masoud Awartani with their goats Ringo Starr and Lily on Wednesday.

EDITOR'S NOTE

During March and April, Masoud Awartani will write an occasional Sunday column about what he experiences during his return to the Middle East. He will be there until April 11.

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ravencottage

March 7, 2010 - 7:00 am EST

What's up with all the muslim-feel-good articles that pop up in the News&Record every month or so? Does someone at the N&R have an agenda? Islam is out to conquer and destroy Western Civilization and all the cute goat pictures in the world will not change that fact.

StevePressley

March 7, 2010 - 8:59 am EST

Take the time to get acquainted with the Awartanis, ravencottage! They will challenge your assumption.

wildlaurel

March 7, 2010 - 9:02 am EST

ISLAM is not out to destroy Western Civilization...at certain faction of extremists who happen to affiliate themselves with Islam are. It is unfair to paint all people of a certain faith with the same broad brush. The Klan used to invoke parts of the Bible to justify their ignorant terrorization of minorities, but you would never say all Christians believed or behaved as they did because they too read the Bible.

nclawkid

March 7, 2010 - 9:38 am EST

Like Mom said, if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.

HotRodLincoln

March 7, 2010 - 10:29 am EST

I have read the "Ravens" trash for some time now and have come to expect nothing less than ignorance and hate from this mean spirited person.

ravencottage

March 7, 2010 - 10:51 am EST

"How dreadful are the curses which Mohammedanism lays on its votaries! Besides the fanatical frenzy, which is as dangerous in a man as hydrophobia in a dog, there is this fearful fatalistic apathy. Improvident habits, slovenly systems of agriculture, sluggish methods of commerce, and insecurity of property exist wherever the followers of the Prophet rule or live. A degraded sensualism deprives this life of its grace and refinement; the next of its dignity and sanctity. The fact that in Mohammedan law every woman must belong to some man as his absolute property - either as a child, a wife, or a concubine - must delay the final extinction of slavery until the faith of Islam has ceased to be a great power among men."
Just some "trash" from Winston Churchill published in 1899.

sladejone11

March 7, 2010 - 11:16 am EST

lol, still stuck in 1899 eh?

ravencottage

March 7, 2010 - 1:38 pm EST

beats the 7th century LOL

batshalom

March 7, 2010 - 2:25 pm EST

I am truly sorry that your life is so miserable that it compels you to speak negatively about something positive. I am also sorry that your prejudiced outlook will not allow you to experience people who you believe are unlike yourself. It must be a very scary world you live in. My condolences.

ravencottage

March 7, 2010 - 3:55 pm EST

batshalom...I shall be waiting for a touchy-feely story in the N&R about a group of North Carolina Baptists building a church with a steeple and cross on top in Saudi Arabia...maybe my prejudiced outlook will change! Maybe it will change when I no longer read news reports of muslim stonings, beheadings, bombings, persecutions, burnings, honour killings, canings, mutilations, and hangings. It is a scary world and for the first time in my life it would be virtually at peace were it not for the evil perpetrated and condoned by islam.

Steadfast

March 7, 2010 - 4:09 pm EST

Ti your dislike all the above you mentioned has nothing to do with the real spirit of Islam. It is a cultural political situation inherited and forced with the various impacts of generations of enmities of people who have similar outlook like yours from both sides.

Islam has nothing to do with honor killing, suicide bombing is something they picked up form other cultures, no need to name how did the first bombing in history etc. The rest of the list you mention are but practices of dictators who are forced upon the people and they are no different from other areas in the 3rd world countries specially where is dictatorship. This has nothing to do with the PEACEFUL Islam.

YES and Peace to YOU as well no matter what you insist to think otherwise.

my2centsworth

March 7, 2010 - 5:09 pm EST

Sura 4:168: “Those who reject [Islamic] Faith, Allah will not forgive them nor guide them to any path except the way to Hell, to dwell therein forever. And this to Allah is easy.”

Sura 9:123: “Believers! wage war against such of the infidels as are your neighbours, and let them find you rigorous: and know that God is with those who fear him.”

my2centsworth

March 7, 2010 - 5:11 pm EST

Sura 9:3: “Allah is not bound by any contract or treaty with non-Muslims, nor is His Apostle.” So why do we trust them??? They can't be!!

Steadfast

March 8, 2010 - 6:44 am EST

9:3 And a proclamation from Allah and His messenger to all men on the day of the Greater Pilgrimage that Allah is free from obligation to the idolaters, and (so is) His messenger. So, if ye repent, it will be better for you; but if ye are averse, then know that ye cannot escape Allah. Give tidings (O Muhammad) of a painful doom to those who disbelieve.
9:4 Excepting those of the idolaters with whom ye (Muslims) have a treaty, and who have since abated nothing of your right nor have supported anyone against you. (As for these), fulfill their treaty to them till their term. Lo! Allah loveth those who keep their duty (unto Him).
9:5 Then, when the sacred months have passed, slay the idolaters wherever ye find them, and take them (captive), and besiege them, and prepare for them each ambush. But if they repent and establish worship and pay the poor due, then leave their way free. Lo! Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.
9:6 And if anyone of the idolaters seeketh thy protection (O Muhammad) , then protect him so that he may hear the word of Allah; and afterward convey him to his place of safety. That is because they are a folk who know not.
9:7 How can there be a treaty with Allah and with His messenger for the idolaters save those with whom ye made a treaty at the Inviolable Place of Worship? So long as they are true to you, be true to them. Lo! Allah loveth those who keep their duty.
9:8 How (can there be any treaty for the others) when, if they have the upper hand of you, they regard not pact nor honor in respect of you? They satisfy you with their mouths the while their hearts refuse. And most of them are wrong doers.
9:9 They have purchased with the revelations of Allah a little gain, so they debar (men) from His way. Lo! evil is that which they are wont to do.
9:10 And they observe toward a believer neither pact nor honor. These are they who are transgressors.
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Here I give the full verse and the ones that follow:

What do you see here, who the aggressor. Even though the verses tells that the non-believers are not to be trusted, yet if they seek peace give them and not only that escort them to a place of safety for them, etc.

So why do you insist to quote out of context or copy wrong quotes.

Compare to Richard and Saladeen in kingdom of heaven where Richard is afraid to surrender in case of retaliation because they in the past had massacred the Muslims, Saladeen assures that we do not do that and he did not. On the contrary they escorted them to safety with their Crosses.

Facts and Truth are available out there seek it for yourself, you will be asked on the day of judgement on everything you say or do. So make sure it the truth you seek and speak and Justice is what you do and uphold even if it is on yourself.

4:58 Lo! Allah commandeth you that ye restore deposits to their owners, and, if ye judge between mankind, that ye judge justly. Lo! comely is this which Allah admonisheth you. Lo! Allah is ever Hearer, Seer.

6:152 And approach not the wealth of the orphan save with that which is better; till he reach maturity. Give full measure and full weight, in justice. We task not any soul beyond its scope. And if ye give your word, do justice thereunto, even though it be (against) a kinsman; and fulfil the covenant of Allah. This He commandeth you that haply ye may remember.

ravencottage

March 7, 2010 - 5:13 pm EST

Steadfast dude...you made a funny!

SarahBethJones

March 7, 2010 - 9:29 am EST

Hey Jeri!

Thanks so much for writing about Annah and Masoud. We're lucky enough to count them among our friends, members of our extended family of choice. They are people who don't just talk about peacefulness and community and harmony - they are people who walk it and live it and exude it.What a world this would be if we could all emulate them, even just a little...

my2centsworth

March 7, 2010 - 2:02 pm EST

Koran (Islam's Holy Book) [60.1] O you who believe! do not take My enemy and your enemy for friends: would you offer them love while they deny what has come to you of the truth, driving out the Apostle and yourselves because you believe in Allah, your Lord? If you go forth struggling hard in My path and seeking My pleasure, would you manifest love to them? And I know what you conceal and what you manifest; and whoever of you does this, he indeed has gone astray from the straight path.

Steadfast

March 7, 2010 - 2:55 pm EST

These verses are out of context, they only talk about people who are in war. You should read the other verses on how we should treat people who are in peace.
I strongly recomment that you read an unbiased book on Muhammad and do not base your feelings and understanding of Islam and Muslims on certain political fanatics on either side.

and YES it is Peace be to YOU.

my2centsworth

March 7, 2010 - 4:49 pm EST

Sura 9:5,29,41 and Sura 5:51 actually says for them to not take Jews and Christians as there friends(b/c they are considered the enemy) Sura 4:89 (seize them and slay them) This is their Holy Book and it has nothing to do with it being a war or peace time...its a book to live by daily. Sura 2:216

my2centsworth

March 7, 2010 - 4:53 pm EST

Sura 9:29-33 “Make war upon such of those to whom the Scriptures have been given as believe not in God, or in the last day, and who forbid not that which God and His Apostle have forbidden, and who profess not the profession of the truth, until they pay tribute out of hand, and they be humbled.”

Steadfast

March 8, 2010 - 6:26 am EST

60:6 Verily ye have in them a goodly pattern for everyone who looketh to Allah and the Last Day. And whosoever may turn away, lo! still Allah, He is the Absolute, the Owner of Praise.
60:7 It may be that Allah will ordain love between you and those of them with whom ye are at enmity. Allah is Mighty, and Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.
60:8 Allah forbiddeth you not those who warred not against you on account of religion and drove you not out from your homes, that ye should show them kindness and deal justly with them. Lo ! Allah loveth the just dealers.
60:9 Allah forbiddeth you only those who warred against you on account of religion and have driven you out from your homes and helped to drive you out, that ye make friends of them. Whosoever maketh friends of them (All) such are wrong doers.
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It seems you insist to quote verses out of context.
these verses are clear that we should be fair and just and not to do enmity except to those who do so.
many other verses tell us the same.
The Prophet said if any Muslim kills a person unjustly even if the killed is a non-Muslim, He (The prophet will be against the killer on the day of judgement)
He also warned not to wrong specifically the people of the book (i.e. the Jews and Christians).

We also look at History to see the translation to those words above.
Did the Christians AND Jews in general survive in the Muslims lands--- Of course they still do.
Compare to Crusades and Spain.

Those verses organize state and war and this is different in time of peace. So do not compare oranges to apples.

Just like when there was the cold war few decades ago. How as an American you are looked at by your own people if you had befriended any one form the east (and that was only cold war not a real war.)

Please get your logic straight.PEACE!

my2centsworth

March 7, 2010 - 2:19 pm EST

Of course you could ask France, England and Holland about their openess to the "loving, peaceful, and friendly Islams." They are all reaping the benefits of this "Lullaby."(A lullaby is a soothing song, usually sung to children before they go to sleep, with the intention of speeding that process.) PEOPLE WAKE UP!! Shake this off and open your eyes! This is not hate, this is awareness!

Get A Clue

March 8, 2010 - 8:42 am EST

All religion is just so much drivel.
I'm happy these good people do good things without the jingoism of borders getting in the way.
This is the only life anyone gets, and they appear to be happy, peaceable people. That's about all anyone can hope for. Good for them.

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