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Kathleen Parker: Incivility rules today

Wednesday, September 16, 2009
(Updated 3:00 am)

WASHINGTON -- Not so long ago, Rep. Joe Wilson's verbal assault on the president -- "You lie!" -- might have produced a much different outcome.

Instead of the U.S. House rebuking Wilson, we might be entertaining the prospect of a duel.

In early America, calling someone a liar wasn't a childish insult, but a challenge to one's honor, an appropriate response to which varied by region. Where dueling was common -- as in Wilson's home state of South Carolina -- so were insults.

Here's how an 1882 New York Times article described the thinking of the time as it related to a Mr. John Goode, who had called a certain Mr. Bailey a liar.

Writing that "Nothing but blood can wipe out this insult," the author noted that although the laws of chivalry were supposed to be dominant, "language used in attacking individuals is much more gross and insulting than in regions where the duel is not invoked as the final arbiter betwixt the man who has been insulted and the defamer.

"In the North, we are supposed to be a lily-livered ... race. Yet we very much question if any legislator or public man would dare to denounce another as 'a liar.' Nevertheless, in the South, ...the exchange of such epithets is possible, and the men who fling these names at each other live and prosper."

Indeed.

Last week, I spoke too soon when I wrote that Wilson might have lost his audience through his boorishness. Instead, Wilson has become a cult hero, rolling in dough. Both he and his opponent, Rob Miller, reportedly have raised more than $1 million each since Wilson's eruption.

Who would have thought that a congressional race in South Carolina could become a referendum on the Obama administration?

As Americans have picked their side of civilization's breach the past few days, some have justified Wilson's words because they think they were true. Sure, one can make a slim case that some of Obama's assertions weren't 100 percent accurate, but Wilson's behavior can't be justified.

And why not? Because civilization is a fragile and delicate idea, held together by a few mere threads, bound together by little more than a wisp of mutual consent. Frays in those threads are daily apparent -- from the rude tantrum of Kanye West at the Video Music Awards to the profane threats of tennis star Serena Williams when she disagreed with a line call.

Summation: People in positions of power and privilege have a duty to perform at a higher level. If not they, then who?

To settle the question -- did the president speak inaccurately when he said nothing in "our reform effort" would pay for illegal immigrants or abortion? -- the answer is, like H.R. 3200, not simple. What's true is that the nonpartisan Congressional Research Service concluded that nothing in H.R. 3200 precludes illegal immigrants from buying public insurance on the proposed Health Insurance Exchange. And, as fact-checking groups have confirmed, there's wiggle room in the bill whereby public subsidies could be used to purchase insurance that covers abortions.

The Senate Finance Committee is trying to iron out these wrinkles, but it's hardly cause for Wilson's emotional display. If one were inclined to give the president the benefit of the doubt, he was speaking of reform efforts, not a specific bill.

Meanwhile, there are myriad ways for a congressman to voice objection to the president's ideas or his colleagues' proposals. But dueling has been out of style for quite some time, even in South Carolina. If our will to self-govern is to prevail, then incivility will have to become unfashionable. 

Kathleen Parker's e-mail address is kathleenparker@washpost.com

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Get A Clue

September 16, 2009 - 3:36 am EDT

Dear Ms. Parker,
You began your career as a 'poor man's Erma Bombeck' but with the advent of President Reagan's far right brand of politics you chose to jump on board that gravy train and for many years you cranked out vitriolic diatribes based on the "no prisoners" (and no common sense) politics of your masters. (Look at the mess the neocons left us in.)

Only recently have you begun the long, slow trip back to--of all things--decency and civility. You even got your hand slapped by those above you on the media food chain once or twice, but each week you have managed to state a viewpoint belonging to the political center and to frame it as best as you can in tones of respect and decency. I applaud your choice; I hope it is for reasons of balance and fairness on not because you've chosen to simply follow the majority again.

I encourage you to continue to be a voice of reason, balance and common sense. The Republican Party has chosen to become a shrill fringe. I happen to believe it is because lately precious few Republicans have even attempted to make their case without resorting to antics usually associated with rap and tennis stars. That's why Republicans ceded the middle...you know, the swing voters who gave the White House, Senate and House back to the Democratic Party.

countryboy

September 16, 2009 - 8:30 am EDT

Clueless...please hold that thought. Return in 2010 with your new definition of "fringe". And why were you not so observant when the purple haired nose ringed juveniles from W. Friendly, along with their geriatric tie dyed t-shirt wearing co-conspirators were being a little shrill at the corner of Market and Eugene for the previous eight years? Hypocrisy is a horrible thing...but it is curable.

Get A Clue

September 16, 2009 - 9:48 pm EDT

A few goofy aimless hippies on the corner don't scare me. Are you frightened by tie-dye?

countryboy

September 16, 2009 - 10:05 pm EDT

The commentary is about civility...not fear.

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