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Victim serves as warning to battered women in N.C.

Tuesday, June 2, 2009
(Updated 2:51 pm)

MONROE (AP) — Heather Thompson's blackened and bloodied face has served as a warning to battered women in North Carolina. On a billboard and in brochures, she tells them they can get help.

Since her ex-husband used pliers and a broom handle and a belt to abuse her 15 years ago, leaving her with permanent disabilities, she's shuffled to high schools to counsel students and taught law enforcement officers about domestic violence.

But always, in the back of her head, was the vow Thomas Howard Price Jr. made in a letter from prison. On Friday he was released, and she began waiting for him to make good on his promise to kill her and her daughters.

"Is he coming today, is it going to be tomorrow?" she said before he was released last week. "Just the always wondering, always having to watch your every move and never knowing when he's going to show up."

Price walked out of a federal prison in South Carolina after serving 4½ years of a five-year sentence for sending the letter, which began with the words, "Dear Slut." He penned the message during the slightly more than 10 years he served for beating Thompson in 1994.

"There's no doubt in my mind that he plans to come after me and the kids. The death threat said all three of you will die by my hands," said Thompson, 38. "That's tough to know that I can't protect my kids right now."

Price, through the federal prison system, declined an interview request from The Associated Press. When his mother was asked where he will live after his release, she said, "This is no concern of yours," and hung up the phone.

No matter where Price ends up, Thompson doesn't plan to move. She doesn't think she should have to and she doesn't have the money.

Price originally challenged restrictions for his three years of supervised release but relented just before a hearing was to be held Friday in U.S. District Court in Greensboro. He agreed to wear a location-monitoring device for six months and to have no contact with Thompson or their 19-year-old and 17-year-old daughters.

Price's attorney, Milton Shoaf of Salisbury, said Thompson had no reason to fear Price.

"He will not go around her. Period," he said. "He has no interest."

Still, said Rita Smith, executive director of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, Thompson's fear is reasonable.

"These guys are good," Smith said. "They find ways to get past firewalls and confidential names. There isn't any real protection. You can do your best to hide and disappear. But I've heard of cases of men finding women who thought they were invisible."

But for women like Thompson, she said, the question becomes: "Are you going to run and hide the rest of your life?"

Eddie Cathey, the sheriff in Union County, where Thompson was abused and now lives, said the department has worked with her for several years to come up with a plan if she feels threatened, though he won't divulge details. His officers have been faced before with trying to protect women from once-imprisoned abusers, but the death threat in Price's letter is making them even more vigilant.

"We're hoping for the best and that he goes on about his business," Cathey said. "But we, as well as her, need to be prepared for the worst."

Thompson met Price when she was 12 and he was 14; they married when she was 18. He shoved her to the ground once before they wed, but she brushed it off — thought everything would be OK "if I just loved him enough."

The came the bruises she hid under clothes and the black eyes she had to explain away. Once, he left two bullets on a Harley-Davidson emblem above their bed. One was for her, he said, and one for her boyfriend if he ever caught her with another man.

"The biggest reason I stayed was fear," Thompson said. "Because he said to me, 'If you leave, it doesn't matter where you go and how far you go, I will find you, and I will kill you.'"

She was 23 the day in 1994 he beat her senseless, leaving her with back, neck and hand injuries — bone spurs, pinched nerves, osteoarthritis — that still require surgeries. He told Thompson he would kill her, bury her in the back yard and tell their daughters she had run away. He slapped her so hard that a ring on his right hand flew off and dented the wall.

The abuse continued for more than three hours. At his trial, she testified the pain was so severe when he squeezed her ears with pliers that she pleaded for him to kill her. Instead, he held her at gunpoint for another 15 hours before allowing her to go to a hospital.

Her injuries were so horrific that the lawyer who prosecuted the case, now in private practice in Monroe, still recalls the details.

"In all the years I've defended or prosecuted cases like that, she probably suffered the worst and had the most horrific injuries for somebody who survived," Donna Stepp said. "I do remember the case just because of that and because of how far she came since that."

These days, Thompson's pain is so severe she can't sit for more than an hour straight and can't work full time. Doctors tell her that CAT scans and MRIs make it look like she was in a severe car accident. Nerve damage makes pain in her right hand so sharp that some days she can't scrawl her signature.

"There are days that I am in pain 24 hours a day, seven days a week, to the point that I can't function," she said.

Her daughters are terrified and more than anything, Thompson wants to get past.

"I'm just ready for me to be able to move on with my life and be able to not always have to be the ... face of domestic violence," she said. "There's a lot more to Heather than just that."

Accompanying Photos

Nell Redmond (Associated Press)

Photo Caption: Police photos of Heather Thompson are displayed at her home in Monroe.

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Panacea

June 2, 2009 - 7:38 am EDT

She's a brave woman. I can't imagine going through something like that. I pray that God keeps that nutjob away from her.

HaileysMom

June 2, 2009 - 8:29 am EDT

I pray for this family. I lived with domestic violence myself. I was forunate enough to get out before I was seriouly hurt. NO ONE derserves this kind of treatment. Its hard enough to live with it, but even harder to live day after day waiting for your ex to show up again. To the family, stay strong. I admire you for talking to groups and sharing your story. I did not leave til my friend was stabbed to death by her boyfriend. I knew then that I would be next. Women need to hear the true stories so they can realize the danger they are in. Just saving one woman is worth the talk. Thank you for sharing your story!!!!

catways

June 2, 2009 - 9:54 am EDT

I like the way they say, "he has no interest in her now" ... this man will come after her. Maybe not at first because all eyes are upon him but as soon as the attention dies down he will make his move. He has controling issues, he controled her and then he was control with prison which he will blame her for it. He probably blames her for everything that has gone wrong in his life ... that's how they function. It's sad the way they blow off domestive violence and they think time is the answer to everything ... time only builds anger and rage for the abuser but they are so good at hiding that from the outside world. I was once in a domestic violence situation and the only advice I can give her is to get a gun permit and always be prepared to stop the immediate threat of danger.

beffie1963

June 2, 2009 - 10:01 am EDT

This loser made death threats from prison and he's OUT?!! Where is our justice system and what is it doing to protect us?!

Crimedog

June 2, 2009 - 11:09 am EDT

Here is an idea that may help other's before the relationship even begins. Get the person's full name and if possible, their date of birth. You can go to the Courthouse, go to the Clerk of Court, get on one of the public access computer. Type the person's last name, first name. Enter it and see if that person has a record. Remember that there may be different people with the same name. That's why the date of birth is important. Once you find the right name, if there is a record on this person. How many assault charges are there? Assault on a female? Driving while intoxicated or driving on a revoked license? Other crimes showing they may be assaultive. This is a public record. If you can not operate a computer, ask one of the assistant clerks to help you. Remember, most of us are nice, charming and fun to be with the first couple of times we date someone. It's after you enter a long term relationship, that a mean assaultive person's true personality surfaces. And, the first time a dating partner acts assaultive or states they will assault, END THE RELATIONSHIP!!!! The problem with the victim, they believe that if they love the the assaulter enough, they will change. THAT WILL NEVER HAPPEN! Please get a past behavior track of anyone you meet and may end up in a long term relationship with. Breaking it off before it starts is a lot less painful, then. This is the simple version I've written. The Dog's outa here.
Crimedog

flossie73

June 2, 2009 - 3:44 pm EDT

Let me just tell all of you guys who have wrote in so critical against someone and all you have heard is one side of the story for the past 15 years. I know them both and she is not as innocent and poor pityful me as she has made everyone believe. He has paid his dues for what he did he wants nothing to do with her at all he just wants everyone to leave him alone so he can go on with his life SO LET HIM.

ezdosit

June 2, 2009 - 5:48 pm EDT

you might be right but the fact remains that no man or woman should ever lay a hand on another out of anger no matter what the situation is and certainly not send a dead threat letter from prison

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